Enjoying Retirement Is About Friends, Family And Trying New Things
When we’re in our 50s and 60s, before retirement, we tend to think retirement is all about money — saving up in our IRA or 401K, watching our pension grow, figuring out our Social Security strategy. But one thing I’ve learned in doing this blog is that retirement is not primarily about money.
Most people will have enough money, especially if they’re flexible enough to make a few changes in their lifestyle. We do not need an impressive McMansion; we do not need to wear the latest fashions; we do not need to travel; we do not need a new car, or maybe not even a car at all.
Instead, retirement is about family, friends — and some activities that we like to do and might even find meaningful. And all we need is the courage of our convictions. The courage to pull up roots and move near our grandchildren — or perhaps overseas if that’s what we always dreamed about. The courage to take a class, join a church group, pick up a paint brush, start a band, or just to step up to the mike and sing karaoke.
I like to play golf and ping pong; I like to go visit my kids and grandkids; I like the volunteer job that I do. And of course, I do this blog. But you know what? I feel like I could do more, something more meaningful or impactful. I’m still searching.
What Will You Do With Your Free Time?
What do you like to do? What would you like to do?
I heard some advice that I try to take to heart: Instead of just killing time, we should try to do things that we find both fun and meaningful. And whatever it is we do, it should involve some time spent engaged in physical activity, some time engaged in mental activity, and some time in social activity.
My brother-in-law recently emailed me. He’s 87, and still an avid golfer. Last week, he boasted, he almost shot his age. He got 88. Didn’t quite make it; but he’ll keep trying.
I know someone else who can match his age in pushups. He’s a bit younger. But a couple of times a week he gets down and does 70 pushups. And I just read about the guy who celebrated his 90th birthday by jumping out of an airplane . . . 9 times in one day!
The Invisibility Of Aging
One thing I’m just beginning to realize, however, is that as we get older we become more invisible. People don’t ask our opinion. They don’t include us in social activities. They ignore our suggestions.
Some of that is inevitable, but if we know it’s a problem we can work around it. We can find something more interesting to talk about than our health problems, or how the world has been going downhill ever since the 1970s. And if we’re involved in something, we can talk about what we’re doing, where we’re going, who we’ve met along the way.
Another thing we realize is that our lives are finite. We’ve seen friends and family develop health problems, or decline mentally. We don’t know how much time we have left. So while I don’t believe we should ever give up searching, there’s no reason to put off doing what we want to do.
