Whether it’s her lips, legs or butt, when it comes to a man finding the right woman, “looks” count. Studies that mix and match personality traits and physical appearance inevitably reveal that men choose the latter almost every time. Is that shallow? Probably, and the divorce rate in this country is likely attributable in some measure to that mate selection process. But, in our defense, maybe it’s a genetic force linked to an idea that more attractive females are more fertile, thus producing more offspring and extending our genetic line! Or, it might just be that we all want the hot girl.
And women instinctively know what men look for in a mate. Not that all women dress to please or attract someone, but stiletto heels, tight skirts, and fantasy bras don’t look that comfortable. And yet, there they are, on display at clubs, parties, and the occasional wedding!
But before the guys get too smug, and the women start wagging their fingers and shaking their heads, consider this: It’s true for women too! That’s right, women consider the physical attractiveness of a guy above almost anything else! Homely nice guys do finish last, most of the time!
Several well-designed studies have demonstrated that, given the choice between desirable personality characteristics in a man, like honesty, friendliness, maturity, or a sense of humor (the old cliché) or attractive looks, physical appearance wins! One of the studies used mothers and daughters to choose a potential date and/or spouse for the daughter. They both looked at the same pictures of very attractive, moderately attractive, and unattractive (not Hunchback of Notre Dame unattractive) men and a list of good and bad personality characteristics that were mixed, so that each physical appearance had a variety of personality traits. The mothers and daughters were then asked to rank the men. In almost every case, both the mother and the daughter chose the attractive and moderately attractive man, even with less desirable personality traits, over the unattractive man with stellar traits.
Is this universal? No. I certainly married up, but my traits were supernova stellar! Nevertheless, it is a reality that “looks” count. So, guys, the bottom line is, whether you’re married, divorced, or single, get to work. Lose the gut. Get rid of the combover (you’re not fooling anyone, especially on a windy day!). Whiten those teeth. Manscape the sasquatch hair! In other words, be the best physical you that you can be. It’ll make you feel better too!
And if you’re also a good guy, she’s yours!