As I mentioned in my first article, I am quite new to dating. Having been married and with my ex for a total of 19 years, I’m starting over and there’s a whole new set of rules this time around.
Dating in my 20s, 30s and now in my 60s is VERY different. Back then, there were rules of “engagement.” For example, a “nice” girl didn’t sleep with a guy until or after date #3. That was definitely a thing! You could mess around but you weren’t supposed to “go all the way.”
Now I am seeing things differently. I’m 60. Fuck the rules. I’m going to do what I want, when I want, with whom I want. Those are my rules. You do you but, be true to yourself.
Many of my friends have their opinions around this, as I do, and as you will. But, the truth is, all the rules go out the window when you meet someone and then rationalize what works for you. Do yourself a favor…don’t rationalize. You don’t have to. You’re a grown up and you make your own decisions about what is right for you and when.
That isn’t to say you shouldn’t take precautions. You “should”! Sorry, I know the “should” word is a difficult one for us. But, with COVID and other transmittable diseases I’m thinking we “should” all be safe rather than sorry. So, guys…here’s some helpful hints:
- Don’t expect that if we go out with you that we owe you sex after date #3. Stop counting. If we like you and there’s chemistry it will happen.
- Make sure you’re both on the same page. If you want to have sex without a commitment, let us know. Then, we’ll let you know if we want to have sex with you. See how easy this is.
- Condoms. Buy them, bring them just in case, and use them if you’re lucky enough to have the opportunity! We used to have to deal with other things like birth control and having babies. You got this one.
- Call or text the next day. It doesn’t cost anything, doesn’t take up too much time and it will make us feel good. No harm-no foul. Just do it!
We’re all out there looking for that special someone to share time with. Maybe to share our lives with. Respect goes a long way. So do unto others…